Step One - Be prepared to look at yourself and admit that every bruise, every fall is all your doing.
Step Two - Surrender, let go of the idea that you should control every event, and have faith that everything you ask will be given to you.
Step Three - Sit down every day and write. Start a journal and every day record the events of the day, paying attention to your reactions to events, experiences, and people. Classify your reactions for what they were, whether they be anger, jealousy, resentment, joy, love, or self-pity.
By identifying your reaction and classifying it as your reaction to an event, you will come to see why you are acting as you are. Why you would react angrily in a situation that does not require anger; your own feelings and responsibilities.
Step Four - Ask why. "Why do I become angry in that situation?", "What is my deeper hidden feeling about this type of situation?". Start recording your "why's" in a separate book. In this book, record all your experiences and incidents of your past and how you reacted to them.
When things happen and we blame it all on someone else, most probably it will happen again because you deem everyone else is wrong except yourself. It always takes 2 to tango...
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